Aaak! Delegation Mud!

THAT’S BEEN ON MY LIST FOR FAR TOO LONG! I’M STUCK! I HAVE SOMEONE WORKING WITH ME BUT I’M NOT GETTING MORE DONE THAN I WAS BEFORE! SOMEONE WANTS TO WORK WITH ME BUT I DON’T HAVE TIME! I’M OVERWHELMED!

If you are in any of these predicaments, I am so happy for you! That means you are growing and that your business is too.

So, smart ass (that’s me :) ), what can someone do if they are in any of these situations?

Great question!

All too often the idea of having people working alongside us as partners (whether a Virtual Assistant, Artistic Staff, Business Partner, Receptionist, Executive Assistant, Technical Assistant) is nothing more than a grand and exciting idea or intention. When it comes to actually doing the creating of the partnership, we fight obstacles and often allow them to slow down our momentum. Here are some more examples:

• I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO START
• I’VE ALWAYS DONE IT MYSELF
• I KNOW HOW TO DO IT BEST
• IT TAKES TIME TO TEACH THEM AND I DON’T HAVE IT.
• I’M TIRED ENOUGH AS IT IS AND YOU WANT ME TO DO WHAT?
• I DON’T THINK I CAN KEEP THEM BUSY
• WILL THEY REALLY LIKE WORKING WITH ME?

If any of these statements describes your attitude, I want to encourage you that there is definitely something you can do to move past this in your partnerships. The only question is do you want to stay where you are or do you want a shining life giving relationship with your partner??? It’s your call.

In this one short article, we are not going to be able to address in detail these limiting thoughts. But, let’s take a look at each of them briefly to get you started on a more productive and nurturing path:

• THAT’S BEEN ON MY LIST FOR FAR TOO LONG! - Sometimes our priorities change. Is this item no longer a priority for you?

• I’M STUCK! - What is stopping you? Can you talk to someone about it? This usually helps to bring forward what is truly happening.

• I HAVE SOMEONE WORKING WITH ME BUT I’M NOT GETTING MORE DONE THAN I WAS BEFORE! - When this occurs, it is usually because we are not giving over the things we would rather not do and holding onto them for ourselves. What do you love? Focus on that and give the rest away.

• I’M OVERWHELMED! - I love the saying in Coaching, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” The same is true for delegating. Take a small item and start.

• I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO START - Is there one little task that you could possibly delegate to this person that you have not been able to accomplish?

• I’VE ALWAYS DONE IT MYSELF - True. You probably have. But is it something you LOVE to do? Wouldn’t you much rather delegate the things you don’t love as much to someone who enjoys supporting you?

• I KNOW HOW TO DO IT BEST - Do you? Well, maybe so. But would there not be value in getting someone else’s input? Maybe their ideas will refresh the process.

• IT TAKES TIME TO TEACH THEM AND I DON’T HAVE IT. - Who runs your time - your work or you? I hope it is you. What item of work could you choose to put aside right now to make room for planning and handing over this one item?

• I’M TIRED ENOUGH AS IT IS AND YOU WANT ME TO DO WHAT? - It’s true. Many of us are tired. I’ve experienced how truly rejuvenating it is to see myself give over something to someone else. Maybe it will build you up to the point where you want to do more???

• I DON’T THINK I CAN KEEP THEM BUSY - If you are in a place where you don’t have a lot of work yet, that’s ok. Start gradually with a small package of hours or a small agreement.

• WILL THEY REALLY LIKE WORKING WITH ME? - That is up to you. How can you make it fun? How can you ensure communicate regularly?

Are you interested in knowing more about how to move these kinds of blocks in your partnerships? Would it help to talk with someone else about what you have been experiencing?

If you are interested in looking at this further, Kaizen Works is looking at the possibility of hosting and leading a teleseminar on this subject.


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Be sure to tell your friends about this all important discussion!

Keep partnering!

Wanda
www.kaizenworks.org

“Can I Really Know if Someone I Met..."

“...Through Networking
Is Perfect for a Partnership?”

Recently, some of the conversations I have been having around this question have confirmed that partnerships are indeed what YOU make them. In particular, I have come across an approach to creating partnerships that I believe holds the key to success in business or personal relationships.

The basic premise of this view is that partnerships will most likely fail unless a thorough and legal written agreement is created by the partners and a lawyer. The document must contain specifics and tangibles such as the responsibilities of each partner, business breakdown and exit strategy – all the terms agreed upon by the partners. In addition, it is essential to have partnership insurance so that if a partner dies, it is clear how their shares will be handled as well as what the involvement of their estate or heirs will be.

While I agree that it is essential that partners are both satisfied and secure, I also know that like attracts like.

The partnering experience of someone who holds this view is rarely positive. Unfortunately, the usual story of broken partnerships is that the relationship ended because of a disagreement or misunderstanding. In addition to this disappointment and frustration, many hours are spent in court rooms battling for a resolution. And unexpected legal fees have usually been incurred. These fees can, in some situations, change the course of a person’s career or financial future.

So it is easy to see how failed relationships can seed fear in hearts. This fear usually leads to an overwhelming emphasis on security concerns. And before long, all partnerships are assumed to be something to be protected from rather than embraced and celebrated. In other words, safety becomes the priority rather than relationship.

Most of us would rather live lives that are free of fear and this kind of strife. So how can we avoid creating fear-dominated partnerships? Is it even possible?

I believe it is. And the reason is that I believe we have a CHOICE as to how we respond to the things that happen in our lives. Although often very difficult, it is possible to choose to act out of love, rather than out of fear.

Knowing that this is possible, here are some suggestions to get you started:

• Focus on what you want rather than on what can go wrong. If you do this, you are more likely reach what you desire because you will be clearly aware of your goals. (It is not wise to enter into any partnership until you are personally clear on what kinds of people characteristics, skill level, and attitude you are looking for. This is the best way to ensure that you keep your integrity and character, and that you do not compromise your values.) To do this, write it out your plan of action.

• BE the partner you want to have. Make a decision to grow into the person that you want to attract as a partner. If you have the integrity and character you are looking for in others, you will attract them much more readily. What a great way to honor your partnerships!

• View the partnerships rules, agreements and strategies as tools; and not substitutes for relationship. If you approach them as tools, they will not become more important than the people that you are working with. Your ability to relate to others is the most important skill in successful partnerships.

• Accept the responsibility of creating and nurturing a successful partnership rather than placing it on the written agreement. It is YOUR responsibility. The agreement is only as empowered, mature and strong as the people who put it together.

Once you are clear about what you want, and are living it in your own life, then begin to look for your partner. If you think you have found someone who might be a fit, sit down with them over coffee and talk over your wants and desires. If the person seems to be a suitable candidate, confirm it by requesting that they write out their own desires/goals. Once you have confirmed that someone is a partnership fit, determine if a lawyer is necessary to firm the agreement, (this step usually depends on the characteristics in a partner you are looking for. If you want someone who believes that a signed contract is they’re word of honor, a lawyer may not necessary. Use your discretion here.)

The keys to the long lasting and successful partnerships have been:

• Partners who are each personally clear about what they want, and who is to take responsibility for attaining it.

• Partners who practice what they value.

• Partners who remember that relationships are dynamic, that they change over time and are willing to renegotiate if there are changes.

• Partners who communicate with honesty and clarity.

• Partners who, in the event of a dispute, will refer to their partnership agreement and not go from memory. (BEING the partner you want BEFORE entering the partnerships does NOT guarantee that there will not be any disagreements. However, if the relationship is based on trust and authenticity, there is a much greater probability that the partners will be able to work things through quickly and effectively).

So yes, I believe that you can recognize a suitable partner just by becoming aware of what you are looking for. By BEING a person of character and integrity, I believe the community you help to create will be undeniably profound and positively impacting.